We are living in a generation that has been taught that sex is casual, harmless, empowering — and even therapeutic. People are being encouraged to “sleep it off,” “move on,” “reclaim your power,” or “heal through experience.”
But beneath all of that confidence…there is often pain, numbness, disconnection, and spiritual bondage.
Because sex was never created to be medicine for a broken heart. It was created by God — holy, sacred, binding — inside covenant marriage only.
And when the world turns sin into therapy…people get hurt.
The Lie: “If I sleep with someone else, I’ll feel better.”
People do this because they are:
• heartbroken
• lonely
• traumatized
• grieving abandonment
• craving affection
• desperately wanting to feel chosen
• trying to forget
• trying to feel alive
• trying to silence pain
And the world applauds it.
But God never called sex coping. He called it one flesh.
“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”— Genesis 2:24 (KJV)
Sex unites souls. It bonds spirits. It ties lives together.
So when people treat intimacy like anaesthetic, they are wounding their soul repeatedly — and calling it freedom.
Sex Outside Marriage Doesn’t Heal — It Divides
Every encounter forms a soul-tie — a spiritual and emotional imprint.
So what happens when someone keeps attaching, detaching, attaching, detaching?
• numbness
• confusion
• loss of identity
• spiritual oppression
• heartbreak upon heartbreak
• inability to bond healthily later
• shame
• self-loathing
• bitterness
• torment
And the enemy says, “See? Just do it again — it will fix the pain this time.”
But God says:
“Flee fornication.”— 1 Corinthians 6:18 (KJV)
Not flirt with it. Not normalize it. Flee.
Because God is not trying to withhold pleasure. He is trying to protect your soul.
The Body Is Not a Cure for a Broken Spirit
Culture says:
“Use your body to forget.”
God says something very different:
“The body is not for fornication, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body.”— 1 Corinthians 6:13 (KJV)
Your body is not emotional medication. It is a temple.
“Know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost… and ye are not your own?”— 1 Corinthians 6:19 (KJV)
When people try to heal through sex, they are actually:
• avoiding grief
• bypassing healing
• refusing to feel
• drowning conviction
• silencing the Holy Spirit
• numbing truth
And what we refuse to heal — only grows.
Pain Needs Healing — Not Distraction
God never said:
“Sin until it hurts less.”
He said:
“He healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds.”— Psalm 147:3 (KJV)
True healing comes through:
• repentance
• deliverance
• forgiveness
• grieving properly
• renewing the mind
• learning identity in Christ
• walking in holiness
• receiving God’s love
Sex cannot replace any of that. It only delays the collapse — and deepens the wound.
Sin Always Promises Comfort — Then Brings Bondage
The enemy whispers:
“This will help you forget.” “This will make you feel wanted.” “This will fix the rejection.” “This will give you control.”
But Jesus says:
“The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy.”— John 10:10 (KJV)
And what does sexual sin steal?
• purity
• peace
• dignity
• clarity
• intimacy with God
• spiritual authority
• emotional wholeness
That is not healing. That is bondage.
Christ Didn’t Die to Leave You Broken
If you are reading this with a heavy heart…this is not condemnation.
This is an invitation.
“Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.”— Matthew 11:28 (KJV)
Jesus does not heal like the world heals. He goes to the root — not the symptom.
He restores identity. He restores purity. He restores peace. He restores self-worth. He restores the heart.
And yes — He forgives sexual sin.
“Though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow.”— Isaiah 1:18 (KJV)
There is no stain His blood cannot wash.
Holiness Is Healing
Purity is not restriction —it is restoration.
It is saying:
“I choose my soul over my impulses.”
It is choosing safety. It is choosing dignity. It is choosing peace. It is choosing God.
“For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication.”— 1 Thessalonians 4:3 (KJV)
Holiness protects the heart the world keeps breaking.
A Final Word — With Love
If you have used sex as therapy…
You are not dirty. You are not ruined. You are not disqualified.
You are simply wounded.
And Jesus heals the wounded.
Let Him.
Lay down the coping mechanism. Pick up the cross. And let your soul finally rest.
“And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.”— John 8:32 (KJV)
Sex is not therapy. Jesus is.
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